Chief Justice John Roberts, in a commencement speech at Cardigan Mountain School on June 3, said:
“From time to time in the years to come, I hope you will be treated unfairly so that you will come to know the value of justice. I hope that you will suffer betrayal because that will teach you the importance of loyalty. Sorry to say, but I hope you will be lonely from time to time so that you don’t take friends for granted … ”
Overcome with challenge, we ask, “Why are there righteous people and life’s bad for them? Why are there evil people and life’s good for them?” (Berachot 7a). Faced with a quagmire irresolvable in our minds, we write books like “When Bad Things Happen to Good People” (Harold S. Kushner) that postulate unsubstantiated hypotheses.
Then we hear a simple speech from a complex individual, the 17th chief justice of the United States Supreme Court, positing that bad things bear the fruit of life lessons. From that perspective, they are kind of good. It’s an irrefutable truth. The only comment news outlets can muster regarding his speech is “it’s unconventional” to propagate such a view at a commencement gathering.
Yes, we don’t have the right to put our fellow humans through travail for the sake of their success. It’s unethical (Bava Batra 16a).
But God is, so to speak, obliged to do so. He knows everyone’s limits, strengths and weaknesses. To use an idiom, He knows how much weight to put on the bar. If He didn’t, how would we learn?
Therefore, if the challenge is in front of us, we can overcome it because God put it there. If it could be better, it would be better. Our situation is the best it could be. But it’s for us to figure out the approach, the solution.
It could be like in “Tuesdays With Morrie” (Mitch Albom) when professor Morrie Schwartz used his dying moments to fashion the most impactful period of his life. Or it could be like in “Man’s Search for Meaning” (Viktor E. Frankl), when the author conjured an innovative way to repel the Nazis controlling him.
Today, society faces deep fissures in politics. Children’s self-image and relationship capacities are being decimated by the social media epidemic. Schools, public spaces, entertainment venues and arenas are devolving into mistreating females. They are failing to recognize what Ashley Montagu called “The Natural Superiority of Women.”
Instead, focus has shifted to emphasizing external superficiality. Internal life force, spiritual spark, emotional capacity, character and intelligent consciousness have been buried in the abyss of colorful displays and under flamboyant facades.
Faced with this onslaught of issues, there is an inclination to be overcome; to be a victim; to blame others, including God, for our misfortunes. People declare, “I’m embarrassed to be an Orthodox Jew,” “it’s the president’s fault,” “this group is the source of our troubles” or “if only this person wouldn’t be in my way.”
The excuses, justifications and explanations serve to deflect responsibility. Did Candace Lightner self-destruct or lash out when her 13-year-old daughter Cari was killed by a drunk driver? No. Instead, she started Mothers Against Drunk Driving (MADD), an organization that offers education to stop drunk driving. MADD has an office in every state in the United States.
These musings may provide insight into this week’s portion. It’s true that we can’t grasp why the Jewish people have suffered throughout history and that it would be predicted in advance in this week’s portion. But one thing we do understand is that God’s actions have a constructive purpose: to contribute to our growth.
“This ain’t about giving up or giving in. We weren’t born to follow. Come on and get up off your knees. When life is a bitter pill to swallow, you gotta stand up for what you believe. Believe that the sun will shine tomorrow ... ” (Bon Jovi).
